Moving elderly parents and broaching the conversation about assisted living is probably one of the hardest decisions an adult child will ever have to make. Many seniors unrealistically believe they can take care of themselves for the rest of their lives. And that's where their children or other family members can be instrumental in identifying the problem and instigating change.
No matter what the age of your parent, sooner is better when it comes to beginning communicating about the future. If you open the lines of communication early on words like assisted living lose their sting later on.
Ninety-five percent of clients come to assisted living homes when they are in crisis situations. The result? Confused elders, disorganized yet well-meaning children, and a family in chaos.
The Importance of Regular Conversations
Avoid these unnecessary results by having regular conversations with your parent about what the future holds. Make it your problem instead of your parent's problem. If you say 'you have to do this, or do that, 'you'll lose them. Instead say something like, 'Mom, I'm concerned about you; it makes me worried to see you like this.'"
Nine out of ten parents don't want to burden their children, and they will often respond to honest communication. Parents sometimes hide things from their adult children because they don't want to scare them. Yet, if you show them that you are trying to be their advocate and that you are genuinely concerned about their well-being, it can make all the difference.
For more information on broaching the subject of assisted living, contact Spring Arbor.
Excerpts - A Place for Mom